I had planned to get Joshua up ‘early’ yesterday so that we could go out to the shops and maybe even eat our lunch out, but once again he was reluctant to get moving and he snuggled back down after his porridge. Then at just before 11am, my husband rang to say that he was setting off to join us for the weekend! So all plans, such as they were in my head, were off and Joshua was off the hook, he had another two hour window in which to prepare for his Daddy’s homecoming.And he prepared by catching some more beauty sleep!
He was dozing on the settee when his Dad arrived and he was treated to a very whiskery kiss and hug, which of course he pulled a face at, being a teenager.We all went out as a family to our nearest town, to share the shopping and enjoy a late lunch in a cafe. The weather had turned wild, so Joshua did not enjoy the wind and rain in his face and after a brief , muddy dog walk, we returned to the sanctuary of our cottage, where the fire was still lit.
Joshua certainly does not understand that his Grandad has died but he did realise that his Dad had been missing for over a week, and he was treated to some grins, hugs and points accompanied with ‘You’re Daddy’. He had missed his Dad and kept checking that he was really here. When Joshua was younger, my husband had a job which involved a lot of overseas travel and he would always bring him back a t shirt from the airport, some Dutch jelly sweets or some fancy silk pyjamas from Asia. Joshua would blank him for ages on his return, somehow sulking that he had deserted him. So perhaps he has got more used to his absences now that he is older but I was glad that when he had been away on such a painful mission, that Joshua rewarded his return with attention, rather than the silent treatment, as even though it is unintentional, to be blanked still feels hurtful. It was not an excited reunion, but an understated appreciation.
There are still more funeral arrangements to make next week and so my husband will return to his parents’house on Monday, but we are grateful to have him back for the weekend, so that our small family unit is complete again.