Strangers’ stares

Joshua seemed to be feeling better yesterday and he was even awake for at least 7 hours of the day! he had to get dressed and go to our local hospital in the afternoon for his occupational therapist to take a look at his wrist splint. At first he was excited to get in the car, he must have needed a change of scene after four days only in his bedroom or the snug! So I played him loud music and he bounced his way to hospital, but after 20 minutes, he started to flag and I wondered if I should have cancelled the appointment. Fortunately we got parked up outside the Therapies Centre but there were a lot of patient in the waiting room. We managed to find two seats together and waited patiently…..

I did not take my mobile phone into the appointment, as I would usually do, as last week he dropped it on the hospital pharmacy floor, while I had given it to him as a distraction in the queue, and I have only just got it back from repair with a new screen on, so we were looking about for entertainment. He rejected the year old ladies magazines so looked around at the other patients, trying to catch their eye with one of his special smiles, but nobody would engage. I found a hard Elmer book which he flicked through, then hurled on the floor in disgust, so I picked it up and put it back on his knee. He grinned and repeated the game so I ignored him and left the book on the floor, asking him to retrieve it, without success. A receptionist walked past and gave the book to Joshua asking if it was his. I replied that it belonged in the waiting room and Joshua was having a game of throwing it. She replied that she was concerned that someone could trip on it. Only then was Joshua rewarded with a couple of smiles from the waiting room.

I have noticed a change as Joshua has got older; when he was a sweet toddler he was able to get away with a lot more as far as the public were concerned, it was more permissable to misbehave in public places. But  the public are not sure how to respond to a cheeky 5 ‘ 10″ 15 year old ; most do not see the cheeky toddler inside and they simply sympathise that my life is no picnic: a lady yesterday in the waiting room said to me that ‘ He keeps you on your toes doesn’t he?’ I replied defensively, ‘yes, he is a good lad and we have fun together’ He had not even been that badly behaved, given that we were kept waiting for 30 minutes before being seen and he had no source of entertainment; I know there are many more challenging classmates who would have struggled in the same situation to even stay in their chairs. It is probably simply a fear of the unknown but the public should try harder not to judge, as I find the head on one side ‘poor you’ sympathy more irritating than the blank stares, that we initially encountered.

So it was with relief when the OT came to call us in and Joshua recognised her and gave her a big grin and followed her into her room. He allowed her to feel his arm and to stretch his elbow and wrist out, as they had tensed up while he has been unwell, but he cooperated. While she warmed up then re-moulded his splint, Joshua was kept amused by people watching and waving at himself in a full length mirror. He does not require much to keep him entertained and we left happily 20 minutes later, him having earnt hisself a reward for good behaviour in my eyes.



2 thoughts on “Strangers’ stares

  1. I just stumbled upon your blog and after reading a few post I must say WAUW! The level of energy and positivity you have is amazing and I am floored by your presence and patience. And your son sounds wonderful.


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