There are several people that I am thinking of today on Father’s Day : mostly I am thinking about my own Dad who passed away over 18 months ago. He was a strong influence in our lives, he taught us about working hard, helping others and he taught me and my sister, right from wrong. He took care of most of our extended family, without complaining, and he had the greenest fingers that I have known. I still miss him of course, but I am very comforted by feeling his presence all around me regularly and so I know that he is still looking after our family.
But today is the first Father’s Day without my father in law too, and so I know that my husband and his two sisters will also be feeling their loss in their lives today, as even grown-ups need their Dads.It will also be the first Fathers day for Yorkshire Grandad’s family without him around and so I send his daughter and grandchildren , a virtual hug. I know from experience that their Father’s Day will never feel quite the same again.
Joshua is lucky enough to have his Dad in his life and he frequently calls his name and hugs him. My husband often jokes that he is number 4 in Joshua’s priorities : he wants his Mummy first, then Yorkshire Grandma , then Granny, and only if none of them are around, then he will settle for his Dad. But that is not true and after I have been away for a prolonged period, then he becomes much more dependent on his Dad and calls for his assistance more often. So that father/son time is precious and it needs time to be developed.Joshua does not want to do the ‘normal’ things that other teenagers do with their Dads : my husband is sad that he will not teach his son to drive or take him to the pub for a pint and a game of pool for instance – but Joshua loves an orange juice with ice in a pub and he is a great front seat passenger in the car. He enjoys so many other shared experiences with our lad; They share a mutual love of dogs and of rock music – they can often be found enjoying YouTube clips together in the armchair. And Joshua is much more affectionate than most 15 year olds, so he shows his love rather than expressing it.
So today is for all the loved fathers out there, whether they are still living or have sadly passed on, we thank them and we think of them , everyday, but even more than usual today.