Two years ago I felt really sad as I saw all the Prom photos on Facebook of Joshua’s peers from mainstream high school as they had finished their GCSEs and were moving onto A’levels at High school or college. It was really hard not to resent the fact that Joshua was not there, standing next to them in his suit looking all grown up and smart. It was a stark reminder that Joshua’s life has not turned out how we had hoped and dreamt for him, as though he was stuck in a time-warp while his ‘friends’ were moving on to exciting new times and experiences.
Well now, 2 years later, Joshua is going to his first school Prom on Thursday night. I took his new suit into school yesterday and there will be a hairdresser at school during the day to put gel in his hair! The main focus of the Prom will be the oldest students who will be leaving school to make their way in the world. Thankfully I have two of these ‘dummy’ Proms, before I will need to face the terrifying prospect of Joshua leaving the safe, familiar and comfortable school that has been his home since 2011. By 2020 I might be able to get through the night without bawling, but I doubt it very much. We fought hard to get Joshua into this school all those years ago, when he was just ten years old, and I knew from my first visit that this was where he belonged.
So the ‘leavers’ will go to the hotel ,from school, in a limousine/party bus and the younger students will follow in a coach. They have two hours before us parents are invited at 7pm to join in the fun and then we take them home again at 9pm, it is still a school night after all. Joshua may well find a quiet corner for a nap during that time.A lot of work has gone into the Prom by school staff and for this opportunity, I am so grateful. It is a great example of his Special School doing something special to try to replicate, in a safe way, the mainstream experience.
I will of course report later in the week how it all goes and how both Joshua and I react to this special night.