I have packed up Joshua’s bag ready for his respite weekend away and he gave it a glance as he went to bed, so I am sure he knows what is about to happen later today. I anticipate that he will be extra-clingy this morning but once we arrive there, as we have to drop him off in the school holidays, he will not give us a backward glance as he will have a whole team of staff there to make a fuss of him. He just loves the attention that he gets there, there is always some member of staff to tease, to smile at, to flirt with and to flash his tummy at and I am sure that is what he loves about where he goes for his short breaks.
I now have a list of adult alternative provisions that we need to call up and look around, so that we can have something ready in place for next March when he turns 18. I plan to make appointments once Joshua is back at school and we will both take a look, before we introduce them to Joshua. I am hoping that I have an instant gut feel for the new place and staff, as I immediately felt at home where he goes now.
He has been going there for over three years now and I can still remember my first visit to suss it out : A smiley lady opened the door and she asked , before introducing herself or saying hello, ” can you walk like a penguin?” and I replied ” yes I think so!” and I thought, on the doorstep, Joshua would love it here. The rest of the tour was not really needed as I had already made up my mind but I went through the motions with the manager, getting more and more excited.
Once outside sitting in my car, I called my social worker up and said that we had found the perfect place and he tried to encourage me to visit another alternative. I replied that there was no need, as I had found the perfect place so I would just be wasting everyone’s time. I am delighted to say that that initial gut reaction was not wrong, it has been the perfect place for our son. They took care of him when he was ‘sleepy Josh’ but they are loving the cheeky, lively teenager that he has become. They humour him when he hides from them, giggling in the ‘garden room’, they allow him to’talk’ on their telephone, even though he then loses it for them and they even take him out to his favourite Donalds for a treat. The staff were as worried as we were, when he stopped eating last winter, as they are ‘feeders’ like me, so they will be delighted to get the greedy, food-pinching Joshua back and I have warned them that they will not be able to fill him!
The new adult provision will have massive job to convince me that they can take care of him as well as the current place does, but at least now, I know what I am looking for as we have been spoilt with the very best provision. I have never been good at change, or transition as professionals like to call it! I can remember begging his nursery school head teacher to keep him there until he was 16, and she very earnestly said to me ” I’m sorry but I can’t… he will grow too big for the furniture!” I loved the fact that she used Joshua’s size as the only reason why he could not stay, not that she would not love to keep him otherwise! But if he had not moved up to mainstream primary and then his first special school, and then his current special school, we would never have found the perfect place for him for his education either , I know that nothing stays the same, but it does not mean that I have to like it.