Yesterday I began what will be a busy weekend combining both work and fun, which has required a lot of planning and a lot of flexibility and assistance from others. I am working today and tomorrow morning in the North West, but when I ‘clock off’ at midday tomorrow, then I will be going to the theatre, to see the musical ‘Matilda’ , with Joshua and a friend and her son. So I will need to be adaptable to switch from work to play mode, from employee to mother/friend mode and back again, as I revert to working again on Sunday. I bought these theatre tickets as last year’s Christmas present for us all, so it has been a long time coming. But in August I won a contract and the client insisted that this was the only weekend that the project needed to take place. At first I said no, it was impossible as I had a prior commitment that I was not prepared to miss. The client was insistent, so I then began to work out if I could combine the two things and if so, how it could happen.
So Joshua and my friends will be arriving by train tonight and I will meet them at the station as my work commitment will be over by 7.30pm and we will have what is left of the evening together. I hope that Joshua behaves during the two hour train ride, but she is armed with the ipad if ’emergency Shrek’ is required as a distraction. H eis often exhausted by friday so he may sleep on the train ride. I imagine that he will be surprised to see me pop up at the railway station. I will sneak out of the hotel tomorrow morning as I have to work again, leaving them all to play and I will be able to join them from midday for the rest of the day.
But then on Sunday I will have to leave early as I have to drive to London and to work again, leaving my friend to take her son and my son back by train, where he will be met by staff from our respite provision , who will take Joshua off her hands, as this should have been our respite weekend. So I have only been able to achieve this weekend through the cooperation of both my friend and the flexibility of the respite provision, who will keep Joshua all Sunday day and night, sending him to school on Monday morning as usual. By the time Joshua will get home from school on Monday afternoon, I should be well on my way home!
It is complex plan and I have left my husband with a detailed list of where Joshua and me are at any point over the weekend and who is in charge of him. We are lucky that Joshua is adaptable as this weekend would be a test for anyone, let alone someone who may not understand plans. I am hoping that he will just go with the flow and enjoy the variety of carers that he will experience this weekend. Watch this space though……