Joshua is not at home and I slept last night for almost 7 hours, which is pretty rare these days.I waved him off yesterday morning, with his overnight bag, and I told him that I will see him on Monday. I am pretty sure that he will not understand what that means but his respite stays are usually three nights long, so I am hoping that once he arrived there, he will settle into the weekend routine. I called last night and he was happy , but had grabbed a few naps and had rejected the meal that they had prepared and chose instead to eat 6 fish fingers and a slice of chocolate cake, which doesn’t sound very balanced but it does sound delicious.
He had also shown some “cheeky” behaviour, which had involved trying to lift the female staff’s tops up! I had had to ask what ‘cheeky’ meant and it was an interesting choice of word. She told me that she was being diplomatic, but I replied that he was not being cheeky, rather he was inappropriate. They had started by trying to ignore him , as we had agreed, but he thought it was a game so was spoken to firmly about it.
This behaviour makes me sad : I want the staff there to like him, to want to be with him, and if he is behaving inappropriately then there is a risk that they will not. When he has smacked my arm, I have pleaded with him not to hurt the people who care for him. I have always been relieved that Joshua is popular and can win hearts with his hugs and twinkly eyed grin. I love that he is known for being cheeky, affectionate and smiley; I would hate for that impression of him to change to someone who has to be ‘managed’ and disciplined. So I am hopeful that last night was a one -off , that he was just ‘trying it on’ for his first night away and that today he will settle down. This is his penultimate weekend stay and so I would like this and the next one to go well, without incident, but to just be full of fun.