After a busy time last week, with hospital visiting, travelling and two mornings at his new respite provision, Joshua and I were both ready for a quiet, lazy day yesterday to re-charge our batteries. My husband was recovering from jet lag too, so we were a sleepy family yesterday. I made a birthday cake for a friend and we took it around and sang yesterday morning, while she opened her parcels, so that was a fun morning. On the way home, we stopped off at Aldi for our Sunday supermarket shop as I knew he would not want to go out again once he got home. It was more challenging than Tesco as the aisles were tighter and the smaller store was fuller, so I had to control the trolley more than I usually do or else we would have been involved in several collisions. As usual I am not allowed any browsing time, so rash choices were made and thrown into the trolley as we breezed up and down the aisles at speed. The main issue was the long queue to pay and the lack of seating near the tills, which Joshua really missed, so he had to stay with me in the queue, which was challenging but we managed it. While packing my bag, I had to be one-handed as the other was keeping Joshua from dashing out of the automatic doors into the busy car park, so I felt rather like a juggler. We managed and he happily pushed the trolley back to the car for unloading.
Once home, he wanted to kick off his big boots and relax in den on his settee and watch Robbie Williams. He dozed on and off all afternoon, but ate all of his lunch which was surprising after the large slice of chocolate birthday cake that he had already tucked away that morning. He did not wish to go anywhere else all day and fortunately, we had no further plans ,so he could get his own way pretty much.
He has a day with Yorkshire Grandma today which he will enjoy. Last week with her he voted with his feet : he refused to get out of the car when she took him to the lake to feed the ducks, it was clearly not what he wanted to do that day. She had not had a refusal really before and she sent me a text to tell me that he would not get out of the car. I replied to tell her that it was not what he wanted to do then and to try another activity and he had no hesitation in getting out of the car when she pulled up outside one of his favourite cafes. I love that he is expressing an opinion and making choices these days, the days of the passive, compliant Joshua seem to be behind us now. While it can be more difficult to entertain him, at least now we now know what he is happy to do.
He will have another longer day at his new adult respite provision on Tuesday, so that we can build on last week’s success and hopefully he will be less shy with them this week as he builds up his confidence. Then from Thursday, we have some family time off together for the long Easter weekend and we will have a few days away together, before he heads back to school for the Summer term, unbelievably. It is a short term , so he will soon be on May half term holidays and then they slide towards the long summer off, in a blink. Then Joshua’s last year of school looms before us and having resolved the respite problem now, we need to build ourselves up to some visits to local daycare providers… There is yet more transition on the horizon!