Joshua had a full day, from 10 am until 7 pm, at his adult respite provision yesterday and once again it went very well. Joshua was happy when we pulled into their drive and he ran towards the door and headed straight into the lounge. There was a young lady there who he has shared children’s respite with him before, and he sat on the settee next to her and there seemed to be some recognition between them. He waved me off, as they explained the plan for his day was to go out to a nearby seaside resort and that the trip would include a visit to Donald’s! The sun was shining and the sky was blue, so it could not be better weather for a trip to the seaside, so I left them with a big smile on my face.
My husband and I enjoyed some brunch when I got back and then we cut the grass, before heading out to our nearest market town for lunch and shopping. There was just time for a siesta before I set off to collect Joshua again. He was very relaxed when I arrived and gave me a giant bear hug, while I heard all about his day and about how much more they had learnt about his tastes and preferences. The staff agreed with me about how well Joshua has settled in already and at how he has adjusted to the new surroundings and staff, taking everything in his stride.
Next weekend is the big jump to an overnight stay – he will arrive at Saturday lunchtime and will be picked up again on Sunday lunchtime. So ,having got to know the staff and building, he will use his allocated bedroom for the first time, which feels like the last hurdle to jump as he ate a meal with them yesterday, which he had been resisting up until then. Assuming that goes well, in June he will stay for two nights. It is good to have been able to control the pace of his transition so that there has not been big gaps between his visits, so that we can keep up the momentum. We have been able to shape the speed at which he has become absorbed into this new provision and all of my requests have been accommodated so far. When he first started at his previous children’s respite provision, we were restricted to monthly visits and so it was several months before we progressed to an overnight stay, whereas, this has only taken since the Easter holidays to reach this point. Assuming that single night goes smoothly, next month he will go from school on Friday night until I collect him on Sunday evening and then finally after that , we will achieve his ‘normal’ three night weekend, going from and to school.
I was upset last weekend when Joshua had to say his goodbyes at his familiar children’s respite, but how much sadder would I have felt if he had no adult provision to slide into, or if he was not settling in as well as he already was. We are in a good place as far as short breaks are concerned and I love the fact that it is just a 15 minute drive away, down country lanes, too, which makes these short visits feasible.
Once again Joshua, you have demonstrated how adaptable and resilient you are and by taking it all in your stride, you make it so much easier for me to adjust too. Joshua’s laid back, sociable personality has stood him in good stead once again and it also helps me to realise that he will relish the move to daycare, from school in a year’s time, too as it will give him some new people to meet, win over and flirt with.