It was a sad day at school yesterday as one of the pupils died suddenly over the half term holiday. I do not know the details but he was only a 12 year old boy and I can only imagine how devastated his family must be feeling right now. The Headteacher and staff will have had to try to explain to his class why he was missing and that he would not be returning and given the range of cognitive ability at school, it will have been a painful message to deliver and not easy to try to ensure that everyone understood. Knowing the school as I do, the children’s welfare comes first and they will do all that they can to comfort his peers and support his family. But it is always shocking when a child dies, someone who has not yet had long enough to grow and live his life to the full. Of course it reminds us also of the fragility of life and makes us want to hold our own children close and protect them as much as we can.
Joshua does not understand the concept of death, as he deals in the here and now and what is in front of him. Joshua adored his Granny who died over 5 months ago , but now that she is not in his life anymore, he has adjusted really well. I have no doubt that if she were to appear again – and I so wish that she could! – that he would greet her with a huge smile and one of his bear hugs; she will not be forgotten, but it is out of sight, out of mind for Joshua. I was away working yesterday and he will not see me again until after school tonight, but he had Yorkshire Grandma and his Dad to take care of him, so he will not have missed me at all. I am confident that he will not have given me a thought, until I turn up tonight when I will probably be treated to a hug and a kick as his greeting. I am pretty certain that Joshua does not have the capacity to speculate where his Granny has gone or where I might have been yesterday, it is a simpler response to adapt and carry on regardless, so long as his basic needs are still being met. That outlook will be why he has settled in so well at respite, as he simply transfers his affections to the staff who are looking after him and does not pine for home or his family.
In the coming days, our thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of the young boy and I hope that they can find some peace, somehow.