The Aftermath

We were full of euphoria to be back home after our adventure at A&E, and then normal life resumes. Joshua slept well in his own bed – as did I but for less time – but when he did get up, he had a very runny nose so he had been brewing a cold, which will have contributed to his high temperature too. Due to his upset stomach, he needs to be off school for 48 hours, even though I am pretty sure he is not infectious, that it is a reaction to the Midazolam and anti-biotics. But pretty sure is not definite and we cannot risk infecting his fellow students and staff ready for their half term break, so we made arrangements for him to stay at home : I was in charge until 11, while my husband attended an apointment that he had already made, and then he took over for the rest of the day , while I went into work, despite my “fuzzy head”. I have orgnaised that Yorkshire Grandma will take care of Joshua today and then we should be back at school tomorrow, all being well.

Despite his runny nose, Joshua was full of energy and was constantly drifting between his bedroom and his den, unsure what he wanted to do or what he wanted to watch. He refused to eat the lunch that his Dad made for him and he spat out the tea that I prepared too. He would however eat satsumas and rice pudding, suggesting that he has a sore throat as well as a runny nose. It is necessary to be a detective when your child cannot tell you if something hurts or if he feels ill.. So I dosed him up with magic Calpol and gave his another hot bath, and stopped nagging him to eat his meal, as I am sure that he will more than make up for it when he feels better and his appetite returns.

My colleagues at work wanted to hear about my adventure : my busy working weekend and also our trip to hospital. It was a big day in our office calendar yesterday, we had our annual quality audit, when an inspector comes to assess if we are keeping to our stated procedures. It is usually a stressful day but I had a new outlook on being examined : after the stress that I had experienced over last weekend , an inspector asking me questions and to show him my paperwork held no fear for me at all. In fact, I became rather giddy during my ‘interview’ but fortunately I did not cause us to lose our accreditation with my light-hearted approach. But compared to the life and death scare of a call that your son is being taken into A&E with uncontrolled seizures and a sky-high temperature, market research, and whether or not I ticked a particular box, was very low on my list of priorities. But not so low that I chose to stay at home and avoid the inspection  completely, which might have been the easy option. But since when did I ever take the easy option in life?


Work/Life balance

I have been working away since Thursday, all weekend, which is thankfully a rare occurrence for me and I will be really pleased to get home this afternoon, as I feel as though I have been away forever. I am so lucky that I was able to see Joshua, my friends and Matilda on Saturday afternoon, as an oasis of fun during a pretty intense weekend. I left our accommodation at 6.15 yesterday morning, both Joshua and I were up and padding around between 3am and 4am, when he had two bowls of cereal and we shared some toast, then I packed my bags while he watched Shrek on the ipad.  He was restless and so I snuggled in next to him around 4.30am and set my alarm for an hour later. I felt more tired when I re-woke up after an extra hour’s sleep, but I managed to slide out, shower and creep off in the dark without disturbing him, leaving my friend, who was also up early, in charge.

I drove for 4.5 hours, enjoying the driving experience until I reached our capital, where the traffic and navigation became more challenging and I struggled to find my destination. I work in market research, so I was moderating focus groups. I enjoy meeting new people, asking them questions for 2.5 hours to get to to the heart of issues, then knowing I will never see them again. It is  a people business and I enjoy getting to know strangers. I have been with the same two clients since Thursday now and we will meet up again this morning, to debrief, before I catch the train home.

During this intense weekend, I am a market researcher and  a project manager, I am not Joshua’s Mum, so it gives me the opportunity to leave him in the capable hands of others and to focus wholly on my work. I would not like to do that permanently, but it makes a refreshing change of outlook for a few days. This weekend I have been concerned by reporting and logistics, and the fact that Joshua needed his emergency medication at his respite provision, was not my problem. But even so I called them ,as usual, at 9pm for an update and then I promptly fell asleep with the lights, TV and my glasses all on!

One thing that has worked out well is that after these next 4 days of work, I have the parent coffeee morning at school on Friday – so need to get baking! – then we have a week’s holiday for October half term holiday together, when it will be no work and all play. I cannot wait for that week away, it could not come at a better time.